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Like many of us I met Mark, BoyInBoycott, on HP- probably on one of the LGBT topic threads; this was long before HP had a “Gay Voices” section-something that I credit Mark and HP’s LGBT community and their tireless advocacy, online for getting the site to recognize them. On those threads he SHONE, his wit, compassion and strength was something to behold and for those who were unfortunate enough to be ignorant bigots; he ripped them apart, there are still those who will feel his sting until THEIR dying day—this brings me great joy, that was Mark-evolve or of feel the burn 🙂
I kept in contact with Mark via chat and shared more of myself that I thought I would with anyone on-line. The time stretching 2012/13 was a particular hard time for me, until recently he was the only one who knew what was happening (even some family members were unaware) Apart from his kind words on chat, he took the time; every morning to “HARASS” me with crappy music under the guise of this goes out to Mrs.H -the @%$@ rascal knew what he was doing…ok the links were for her, it was just a bonus if it bugged me. BTW those two bonded over ways to make me miserable – deep down I enjoyed it and will miss that playful side of Mark dearly.
He was the kind of guy that if the house collapsed on him; he would tell you he a had a hangnail, no big deal. When he publicly announced that he had cancer he just said “I need a biopsy,” I talked to him on chat and he made no reference of what he had been enduring for some time, he actually tuned the conversation on me to find out about my meager troubles, Mark was always a nurturer.
Mark is GONE but he mattered. He mattered to Beau, his family and friends and to us who are lucky to share a few hours each day on this blog. But he also mattered, whether they know it or not, to those who read his words online, always standing for all those who died before him during the early AIDS pandemic years, his words mattered and he had an impact, he balanced the ignorant, hateful bigots who have the audacity to think they can dictate who others can love.
Mark you are loved and forever missed by all of us, you’ll never be gone from our hearts.